Ask Candid Candace: Unfriended and over-tweezed

Dear Candid Candace: I was just “defriended” on Facebook by a longtime friend. I can’t see their feed anymore and miss it and them. Facebook was basically the only way we kept in touch. Our friendship, made up of likes, pokes and emojis, was satisfying. Although I haven’t seen this person in the flesh for 15 years, I still feel jilted and I’m having a hard time getting over it. Why would she do this to me? Maybe I posted something she didn’t like? Please help me move on more quickly. — Ms. Sad Face Emoji

Dear Ms. Sad Face Emoji: These days, it seems we all live or die through social media, which is so sad. I believe Facebook was initially intended to bring people together but it appears to be a tool that can also drive us apart. I’m sorry this “defriending” has affected you so badly but, in reality, how close could you be if you haven’t seen each other in 15 years? I doubt that you were “defriended” for over-sharing or discussing controversial topics, which sometimes can rub people the wrong way. It could have been something as simple as jealousy. In any case, you might use this experience to remind yourself of who your real friends are and be grateful for them. Or, you might consider the fact that social media is playing too big a role in your life.

Dear Candid Candace: I’m a victim of over-plucking my eyebrows and now they don’t seem to be growing back. I can’t keep my hands off the tweezers! Please tell me if you have any advice for someone like me. I love makeup and enjoy the application process but looking into my magnifying mirror, I see so much that I want to change. Any advice for a problem like mine? — Over-Plucker

Dear Over-Plucker: Yours is such a common problem and it seems to have been an issue for a very long time. In my mother’s day, it was a thing to have tiny, thinly shaped brows. She was a master over-plucker and hers never grew back. When she was older, I took her to have her eyebrows tattooed on and it was a complete transformation. She loved it! So, there are tools to help with the problem but this solution might be too drastic for some. My brows have always been thin too so I feel your pain. A few years ago, I tried neuBROW Enhancing Serum, which was suggested to me by a top Chicago make- up artist. It definitely worked, but the draw-back was that it is very expensive. Before you try out any of these suggestions, make sure to consult with your doctor as all products have risks. I stopped using the serum long ago and decided it was cheaper to learn how to use a brow pencil. Also, you shouldn’t fret over what you see in a magnifying mirror—no one will ever be that close to you anyway.

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 (Article updated 4/15/26)