Ask Candid Candace, sponsored by Randolph Street Market. Send your questions to Candace@CandidCandace.com.   (Next RSM Market will be in Three Oaks, Mich. July 26/27, 105 N. Elm St.)

Ask Candid Candace, sponsored by Randolph Street Market. Send your questions to Candace@CandidCandace.com

(Next RSM Market will be in Three Oaks, Mich. July 26/27, 105 N. Elm St.)

Dear Candid Candace: How do I get my husband off his phone or iPad? I’ve tried everything! I think he has an addiction. Every time we are watching a movie or even enjoying coffee he’s got his iPad or phone on so I’m seeing the top of his head not his face. He says it’s work or an important news story, but I catch him on social media just scrolling or surfing the web. The best times we’ve had is when we go out of town to a place where there is no WiFi. But those places are becoming harder to find! How do couples manage this so that they have quality time together without devices coming in between them?

—Desperately Seeking to Disconnect and Reconnect

Dear Seeking: Sadly, this is such a prevalent problem that there is even a name for it, “phubbing” aka phone snubbing which is the act of denying your partner time and attention in favor of connecting with your screen. Paying more attention to your phone than your spouse telegraphs to them that they are not as important as the device in your hand. Agree to leave your phones behind or, at the very least, in your pocket or purse. Tell your partner how this makes you feel. Let him/her know that this simple act is undermining your relationship and that you need more in-person time. As a last resort, ask your partner if you could tape their phone to your forehead so you could pretend they’re looking at you when they talk.

Dear Candid Candace: I have a friend who broke up with her husband over a year ago. I know she is lonely, but she claims she is not interested in meeting a new person. Are there any legit online sites I can lead her to that she can check out that may make her, at least, consider dating? I’m really concerned about her emotional health...she’s so lonely.

—A helpful, hopeful friend

Dear Helpful, Hopeful: First off, your friend being a recent divorcee, will need to decide in her own good time if and when she would be ready (and willing) to begin dating, if ever. Many times, when a couple has been married for a long time, they may never want to date again. I know you want the best for your friend, but only she knows what that would look like. You—maybe something as simple as spending more time with her would be the best course of action at this time. And, as far as suggesting online dating sites, I just advise you to thoroughly check out any sites you’re considering, read loads of reviews, and ask friends you know who have had success for suggestions.

 

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