Ask Candid Candace: Alcohol vs. marijuana and celebrity photo protocol

Dear Candid Candace: Recently, while my wife and I were at dinner, we noticed a celebrity sitting near us in the restaurant, a pretty big one— I will withhold name.  I wanted to go over and just quickly say hello and tell her how much I enjoy the movies she’s been in. My wife said absolutely not, it would be rude to do so, and that they would not want to be bothered during dinner. I listened to my wife and stayed put, but afterwards, I was mad at myself for not taking a chance and going over to say hello. What do you think? If a Hollywood celebrity is having a nice meal out, is it ok to go over quickly and tell them how much you enjoy their acting? Or best to leave them be? Signed, Mad I Missed My Chance

Dear Mad I Missed My Chance: I too am a celebrity geek. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve wanted to do this and have, with mixed results. As Wayne Gretzky said, “You always miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” HOWEVER, I always try to “read the moment.” If the star in question is in a crowd, shaking hands and taking selfies with fans, then go for it. But, if that person is trying to have a private moment with friends or family, I say leave them alone. They deserve downtime too just like you and me. There are lots of opportunities to do this that are more appropriate like at fan conventions, red carpet events, film promotions and more. I agree with your wife, wait for your shot, and then shoot it like Gretzky!

Dear Candid Candace: Recently, I had a discussion with my two older teenage kids. They go to parties now, and they say there are some kids more into drinking while others prefer smoking marijuana. Some are of legal age and others are not, but the big difference of opinion between the kids and me is this: I say that neither are good to be doing, but that alcohol (beer, wine, hard liquor) is not nearly as bad as marijuana, which can be more damaging long term to the brain. The kids say there really is no difference. Candid Candace, what say you? Signed, Up In Smoke

Dear Up In Smoke: Call me old-fashioned but, firstly, I don’t think anyone should be drinking or smoking marijuana under-age. Twenty-three states have legalized marijuana for recreational use. (In the Netherlands, all drugs are technically illegal, but those 18 years old and older can smoke cannabis within a “coffeeshop.”) Both alcohol and marijuana can have negative health effects. Alcohol can lead to liver damage, addiction, impaired judgment, and various other health issues. Marijuana use can impact memory, concentration, and cognitive function, especially in young and developing brains. Both substances have the potential for addiction and dependency. Different individuals may react differently to each substance. Factors like genetics, frequency of use, dosage, and personal health can influence how each substance affects a person. It’s great that you encourage an open dialogue where your kids can ask questions and express their opinions. Ultimately, the decision regarding alcohol and marijuana use should be based on a combination of personal values, legal considerations, health risks, and responsible decision-making. Encouraging your teenagers to consider the potential consequences of their choices and providing a safe space for open discussions can help them make informed decisions about their own health and well-being. Good for you being open to dialogue and, personally, I think there are equal negatives for both.

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